Getting Through December

We are halfway through the month of December. When I was younger, December was a month full of joy, happiness, and expectations. December meant time with relatives, once a year traditions, good food, and so much love. This wasn’t the same for everyone even when they were young. And as I have aged, I have become more aware of the range of emotions that the month of December stirs up for people. For some, December is a month filled with grief and sadness and regret and loneliness. For some, December is a time of not being able to live up to expectations. For some, December doesn’t bring the peace they long to find.

A song that sums up for me the less discussed feelings of this month is Over the Rhine’s “If We Make It Through December”-“If we make it through December
Everything’s gonna be alright I know
It’s the coldest time of winter
And I shiver when I see the falling snow

If we make it through December
Got plans to be in a warmer town come summertime
Maybe even California
If we make it through December we’ll be fine”


I invite you to keep this idea in your mind as you move about the next half of the month. For so many this month won’t look like they have hoped-families may be celebrating via Zoom instead of together, empty seats will remind us of the loved ones who are no longer with us, finances may be tighter than other years, fears of illness may be causing additional stress, and so many other stresses and worries and fears and concerns and possibilities may be keeping people up at night. And if none of this is true for you, it is true for someone you know and love.

So as much as I would love to end with some cheerful words to made everything work out perfectly like the end of a perfectly scripted Hallmark movie (that was not an attack on Hallmark movies which bring much joy to so many), I am going to ask us to do the hard work. I am going to encourage you to sit with the hard feelings and not rush past them. When this month doesn’t meet your expectations, live in that feeling for awhile. When you are missing your loved ones, focus on the memories for a bit and allow yourself to be sad or cry or miss them. When you can’t imagine how things will work out, be angry and live in the heartbreak. And when you are ready, reach out to someone and share how you are feeling, write your feelings down, say out loud that the month of December is hard for you. If none of what you have read mirrors the way you have ever felt in December, I encourage you to be on the look out for those for whom these words ring true. They need you this month.

Hear again the words of the song as our benediction.

“If we make it through December
Everything’s gonna be alright I know
It’s the coldest time of winter
And I shiver when I see the falling snow

If we make it through December
Got plans to be in a warmer town come summertime
Maybe even California
If we make it through December we’ll be fine” Amen!

Giving Thanks

We can all agree that this Thanksgiving is not like ones we have known in the past. I am not going to tell you how to celebrate this year as you can find many other places and people who have shared information about what are the best choices to make for the holidays.

Instead I want you to be aware of your emotions as you navigate the coming days.

What are you grieving? Write or verbalize those traditions that are not happening for you this year and how you feel about these changes.

Where are you giving thanks? Write or verbalize the people, places, things for which you are giving thanks today.

Where are you finding joy? Write or verbalize the current times you feel joy or memories that bring you joy.

Where are you having moments of peace? Write or verbalize when you feel peace and allow yourself to linger in your feelings of peace.

Let yourself feel the emotions that this reflection brings up. Cry, laugh, scream, smile, and do what you need to do as you live with the emotions that come up this holiday.

Go Outside and Try Again!

Late in 2019, I was introduced to “1000 Hours Outside“. This is the encouragement to increase the amount of time spent outside to lessen the amount of time spent in front of screens/inside. It was created to encourage taking children outside more and evolved to include adults too. I jumped into this idea with both feet on January 1st. I began to track my time outside. I printed the countdown sheet where I could cross off every hour until I reached my goal of 1000 hours. You will not be shocked to know that I did not make big progress toward my goal in the cold, wet days of January.
And for those of you who love math, 1000 hours averages about 2 hours and 45 minutes a day. This has been a long year, so you may not remember that January 2020 on the Eastern Shore of Maryland was not a month that inspired me to sit outside or hike outside or be outside.

My excitement for this project turned to disappointment and discouragement. And, I quit. I took my countdown worksheet and I crumpled it up because I was so defeated. I recycled it.
That isn’t the end of the story. This idea of getting outside more-of intentially choosing to be outside-stayed with me. As 2020 unfolded in ways none of us dreamed possible, I had more opportunities to be outside. We are now being encouraged to eat outside and be outside more and more.
What could be seen as a massive failure-I have no idea how many hours I spent outside this year because I stopped counting in January-could instead be seen as taking someone else’s idea and making it work for me. Because this idea has stayed with me, I find myself feeling pulled to be outside more to sit and watch the clouds, or walk through my neighborhood or the local park, or even to do yardwork not because I love yard work and instead because I love how good it looks when the work is done.

I hope my failed attempt to keep track of how many hours I spent outside this year inspires you to look at something in your life that could be considered a failure or an unfinished project or something you never started because it would never end and you make it work for you. Do it in your own way. Try it. Let the ideas of others in and use them in ways that work for you.

God of All Creation,
We can be too hard on ourselves for those things we call failures. Help us to reframe our ideas as opportunities. Use our creativity to create new paths instead of obstacles. Push us outside of our comfort zones to places where we might change and grow. When we do go outside, open us to experience the wonder of creation. We give thanks to you, God, for being part of your creation and being your beloved children. Amen.

Sitting outside giving thanks for the beauty.

Psalm 19-Call to Worship

This call to worship is done responsively with the worship leader beginning and the congregation responding with words from Psalm 19. Selected parts of the Psalm are used and the translation is New Revised Standard Version.

Leader-Look! Listen!

Congregation- The heavens are telling the glory of God; and the firmament proclaims his handiwork.

L-Look! Listen!

C- The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul; the decrees of the Lord are sure, making wise the simple;

L-Look! Listen!

C-The precepts of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the Lord is clear, enlightening the eyes;

L-Look! Listen!

C- The fear of the Lord is pure, enduring forever; the ordinances of the Lord are true and righteous altogether.

L-Look! Listen!

C- Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.

Listening to Creation-A Call to Go Outside!

Recently I was talking with a friend about the beauty and wonder of creation. We wondered together whether birds and other wildlife have been more active since the pandemic began or whether we have simply become more attune to their presence? My answer was yes.
As I type this and reflect on this conversation, I am sitting outside on my back deck listening to the cacophony of birds and insects that also call this area home. The sounds are loud and overwhelming and peaceful too. Are they louder than last year at this time or am I simply more aware of them?
This pandemic has shifted my life and encouraged me to spend more time outside. While I am not thankful for the pandemic, I am thankful for the push outdoors. When I must work at home, I find it can often be done from outside and I am thankful to be part of God’s creation while keeping a distance from others.
I hope you will find time to be outside soon. Sitting, moving, listening and looking at God’s amazing creation is a great reminder that we are part of creation with a responsibility to care for it and to enjoy it. So go outside and give thanks to God for this beautiful place we all call home.

My view while writing.

A Prayer for the Less than Ordinary Days!

My life has not been ordinary for the past few weeks. And I know we can all say that our lives have been less than ordinary for most of this year. This is a prayer for those days that are not ordinary.

Loving God, We need you today. Our plans have flown out the window as we are coping with the unexpected. It feels like we do not have an anchor and we are floating in the sea unable to see land. Rescue us! Anchor us! Bring us safely to shore.
We wonder if our hopes will ever come to reality. God, guide us through this day with changing expectations. Guide us! Hold us! Love us!
Remind us that nothing can separate us from your love for us! Nothing! So even when things are upside down and backwards, you are with us. While we wait for direction, be our gps turning us around when we start down the wrong road.
The questions keep piling up, and we seek answers from you, O Wise One. Answer us in your time while giving us the patience to keep on waiting even when the wait seems so long.
We long for the ordinary days to return, and until they do be with us, Loving God, every single day. Amen.

Trinity Benediction

Last night I had a dream where I was leading worship. I must be missing in person worship more than I had realized. For all of us dreaming of returning to worship with handshakes, hugs, singing, and no worries of sharing germs, I offer this benediction.

Go in love. Know you are created in God’s own image and loved more than you can imagine. Share that love!

Go in peace. Follow in the footsteps of the Prince of Peace seeking to be peacemakers in all you do.

Go in hope. Listen for the guidance of the Holy Spirit as you live into your calling.

Go out sharing love, peace, and hope!

Psalm 139 Benediction

Sunday’s Psalm reading is Psalm 139:1-12 and 23-24. In the challenging and odd time, we all need a reminder that wherever we are God is present. God does not abandon us nor ever stop loving us. This is good news. I encourage you to read the Psalm and then speak out loud for yourself and those you love this benediction.

As you go out into the beauty of God’s world or stay in your homes, know God sees you. As you do your part to keep others safe in this time, know that God is with you. As you pray for your friends, family, and people you do not know, know that God hears your joys and cries of pain. As you begin a new week with God, know that God is leading you in the way everlasting. You are created in God’s own image, and you are God’s beloved. Amen.

Can We Start By Being Kind?

This is an adaptation of a reflection I shared in the daily call for prayer and inspiration which is led every weekday morning for volunteers and staff of Coastal Hospice.

What a different place and space we find ourselves than when the Spiritual Counselors began hosting these calls a few months ago. Whatever you believe about COVID-19 and Black Lives Matter and the stock market and our elected officials and how we best educate our children and so many other things, we are not where we were a few months ago. Things have changed and each one of us has changed. Don’t hang up because you think I am going to tell you how to think about a specific topic on the news. I’m not. Instead I’d like to encourage you to think about how you react to another person who has a different view than you hold. Because we are a healthcare organization, I’m going to focus on our reactions to COVID-19. Even on this call, I am going to make an educated guess that we have different responses and feelings to where we currently are with this virus. Some of us might think that everything should be opening up and people should be able to make their own choices with what to do. Others of us might think that we should have continued with stay at home orders in this state for a longer period of time. Like all of you, I have my own feelings on this based on my life experiences. Again, I want to say I’m not trying to change your mine on this. What I would like to call to your attention is how you react to someone who feels differently. How do you respond to someone who has a different view? What emotions bubble to the surface when someone is doing something that you disagree with? My reflection today is a call for kindness. We don’t have to agree. We can be kind. We don’t always understand what is going on in someone else’s life. We can be kind. We may worry about the future or not have a care in the world. We can be kind. I may not like what you do. I can be kind.

As you go about your day and into the weekend, don’t rush to judgment, bite your tongue when necessary, and believe in the good of other humans. Response with kindness in your thoughts, your words, and your actions. Lest you think this is Susannah calling us to all be Pollyannas, being kind is hard work. So be kind to each other and especially yourself!

Hear these words from Colossians 3: 12, “As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.”

God of Love, Fill us with your love this day, so we may be kind to ourselves and each other. And when that proves to be difficult, give us strength to try again. We are thankful to be called your beloved ones. Teach us your kindness. Amen.

A Prayer for Pentecost

Let us pray on this holy day (this coming Sunday) as we end the Easter Season and celebrate the Holy Spirit and the Birthday of the Church!

Today does not look like other Pentecosts for many of us. Wherever we are celebrating this Pentecost, we know you are with us, Holy One. We ask that you pour out your Holy Spirit upon us like that first Pentecost. Revive us as we are so weary. Inspire us so we may live out our faith in new ways. Strengthen us for the coming days. God, we celebrate today as the birthday of your church. Whether we gather as your church virtually or physically, we are your church. Remind us today that we are your beloved children who you have called to do your work in this your world. We have heard your call and answered with the help of the Holy Spirit. Revive us. Inspire us. Strengthen us. Amen.